Percieved Inconsequentiality (Bonus)
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Extreme Case Scenario

In some cases, Perceived Inconsequentiality can become an extremely dangerous thing for a group. If ever a player indicates that they're breaking Table Rules on purpose, consider them a threat to your group as this is an act of subtle aggression. If said player admits that they've been intentionally breaking rules (as sometimes happens when a player is caught and overreacts), then this player is, for all intents and purposes, committing an act of overt aggression against the DM, fellow players, and the game itself. If there is a secondary component in all of this, such as a website, game blog, YouTube Channel, or whatnot, then the player should be booted from the Table and banned from the extra-tabular projects as well due to the extremely high possibility that they could damage all of this.

These sort of actions can be a result of spite or ignorance. Bring it up to them, remind them of the rules, tell them that their actions do have certain consequences, and observe their reaction. If the player calms down and can maturely discuss the situation, then there may be hope. However, be wary. This sort of player may be manipulative, and may successfully drag other players into this on his/her side.

There is a more extreme variant on this kind of Snowflake, the Nitro Snowflake, but not one outside the realm of real possibility. This is the "I know the limits, but I'm going to do what I can to push against the rules to see if I get in trouble" type of asshole. This is the type of person who, without mercy, throws others under the bus when confronted about rules breaks and throws out something like:

"I'm breaking the rules because I didn't get in trouble once even when others are getting punished for my actions, so I'm going to use this to undermine the DM when it's most dramatically appropriate!"

This kind of Snowflake is the proverbial wolf set to guard the sheep, as in this person is intensely destructive to the well-being of the group. If this were a cartoon, you would have Snidely Whiplash. If a movie, you'd have Roy Batty.

The Nitro Snowflake will sit on your group until the right provocation triggers the explosion which, if not managed immediately, will tear an entire group apart. It is always best to rid the group of this, and the best way to achieve this goal is to detect and nullify as early as possible.

How to detect the Nitro Snowflake:

  • Gaming Group Considerations:
    • Has the player injected story elements during game which went against what the DM had already set up [see Part 1]?
    • Has the player whined about things not being fair or gone into silent mode when something happens to their character?
    • Does the player constantly treat the other PCs like NPCs?
    • Does the player constantly treat the other players like NPCs?
    • Has the player refused to follow instructions?
    • Has the player refused to correct things on his/her character sheet, inventory, spell sheet, notes, etc. but will readily criticize anyone else for an inconsistency?
    • Has the player refused to accept responsibility for his/her actions?
    • Has the player lied about anything related to the game?
  • Project Group Considerations:
    • All of the above-mentioned.
    • Does the person refuse to participate?
    • Does the person constantly cause delays in processing?
    • Does the person want a leadership position but refuses to help other teams out?
    • Does the person actively attempt, as above, to undermine leadership through deception and manipulation?
    • Does the person make up consistent excuses as to why he or she is not working on the project?
    • Does the person readily throw others under the bus?
    • Does the person lie about doing certain tasks?
    • Does the person do the opposite of what is asked?

If the answer is "yes" to three or more of these questions, it is quite likely that you have a Nitro Snowflake which must be dealt with immediately. The more times the answer comes up "yes," the more dangerous this Snowflake is to your group.

IF the Nitro Snowflake, or any other example mentioned is a friend, then keeping this person in your gaming group or on your project will be detrimental to both your group/project and your friendship. Better to preserve your friendship by being a harsh leader than letting the issue fester and kill your friendship and put your game/project at risk.

Thanks for reading.


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